A recent flurry of posts on a thread in the wordpress.com forums, initiated by the comments of someone who has a tendency to stir things up whenever they appear, got me to thinking about a few things. I was about ready to get into the fray when I stepped back and realized that for me personally, it just wasn’t worth my time.
In a situation like this where the accusations were broad, and not aimed at any one person in particular – at least as far as I could tell – it’s a good thing not to simply dismiss it as BS, without taking a step back to calmly and honestly ask yourself if any of the accusations apply to you. This is also true when it’s aimed at you as an individual. This is just good practice.
Once you have looked at things honestly and calmly, if there is any truth in what was directed at you, then it’s up to you to make adjustments – or not – the choice is always yours. In the end though, the only thing we really have full control over is ourselves and how we present ourselves to the world.
Since no two people have the same knowns, beliefs and life experiences, no two people are going to view or interpret the same thing in the same way.
As far as whether you want to defend yourself or not, that is entirely up to you. In my experience, you seldom are able to change the other person’s view of the situation, and sometimes your silence speaks much louder than words.